So sorry I've been M.I.A. But unfortunately my friends mom passed away and I've been out of town with her.
It was a very emotionally charged weekend. Like I said last week, this is the first friend I've had whose parent has died. It makes you think a lot about your own parents dying. But I'm SO happy I was able to be there for her. She doesn't have a ton of family, so it was us, her friends, that were her support for this. We sat with her through the entire wake. Sat right behind her at the funeral. And sat with her at the luncheon. It was also nice to see 'my girls.' This group of us met in college. We were all in the same sorority and we are still all very close. I don't get to see them a much as I used too, being that I live 2 hours away, but they will always be like family to me. Whomever said being a part of a sorority is like "buying your friends" couldn't have been more wrong. Or, maybe it was the best money I ever spent? Ha ha.... whatever it may be, I love my life-long friends.
The mother of my friend was an interesting woman. She was VERY into appearances and very pretentious. She'd be the first to tell you that about herself. And this funeral, which she had planned every detail for herself, was in true Jane form. OVER THE TOP. The luncheon was at the Dearborn Country Club. Elaborate appetizers, Surf and Turf for lunch and even a party favor (yes you read that correctly) for every guest that attended. Jane knew exactly the way she wanted her "last event" to be!
On Friday, at the wake, my friend asked us to stay until the end. They had to say their last goodbye to her mom that night, since it was going to be a close casket funeral. She wanted us to be around afterwards, so we all went across the street to a place called the Double Olive (martini bar). Well I was EXHAUSTED at that point, so I went and got a cup of coffee. Big mistake, I was up until 3:15am that night. Granted I was drinking wine with my friends up until that point, but wow. I cannot remember the last time I stayed up that late, unless it was with one of my kids. When the alarm went off at 8am the next morning, I could barely function. Holy hang over.
Oh, and want to hear what I said at the luncheon? We walked in the room and I saw all the appetizers. I hadn't eaten dinner the night before, and had only a protein bar for breakfast that morning. So all the food looked amazing! So I say, loudly, to my sister standing next to me "WOW, look at all that yummy food! I must have died and gone to Heaven!" Yes people, I actually said that... at a funeral. They should never let me out of the house. Only me.
Ok, I'm mad behind at work, so I will end it here. Glad to be back though!
-V
Oh I've made comments like that without thinking at a funeral before too. It happens!
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